tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2087443128769701074.post2453975900926869107..comments2023-05-20T08:15:32.309-07:00Comments on Somewhere in my Memory: I have the brain of a womanMattityahuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05549061279827942555noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2087443128769701074.post-42304923459142193162007-06-30T12:18:00.000-07:002007-06-30T12:18:00.000-07:00Hey Matthew!I just want you to know that you are f...Hey Matthew!<BR/><BR/>I just want you to know that you are far from alone in this! I've had my share of obsessions and mindsets that I thought I'd <I>never</I> be able to shake, but eventually I moved on and everything turned out ok. There were many "what if's" (what if it would have turned out different) and also many times like you mention where you don't really want someone - you just want them to want you.<BR/><BR/>Bill Gillham might say you have your "feeler" overextended. :) To which I can fully relate. In his book, "What God Wishes Christians Knew About Christianity," he writes:<BR/><BR/>"Too often our <I>feelings</I> - rather than God's word - become the controlling factor in our lives. We must count the facts about ourselves as true as declared by <I>God</I>, not as declared by our feelings and the world-system programming of the thoughts we process. As we consistently walk in the "light" (truth of God's word) and by the life of the Spirit of Christ through us, God will begin to develop a sense of reality within us of what is already true about our identity - that we are literally new creations in Christ."<BR/><BR/>This way of life - learning to walk according to our new identity as opposed to how we feel moment by moment - is an ongoing, lifelong process, I believe. I know I've overcome a lot, but I still have a lot more to do! My words to you right now, Matthew, would be something Steve McVey said when he was at my church a couple of years ago. He said that if he could sum up the messages he had preached throughout the weekend, he would say these words: "Lighten up." :)<BR/><BR/>It's very hard to live this life in Christ if we're worried about if and how we'll ever overcome some of the things we go through. And I know that at the time, it's hard to just let go and lighten up. But God's grace is fully sufficient to help you overcome the things that go on in your thought life. It does take time, but it does happen. :)Joel Bruesekehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10395847887953875757noreply@blogger.com