Am I allowed to allow God to love me based on Jesus' obedience alone? Am I too fearful to receive His love? I know that loving God doesn't come from trying to love Him. So why do I get so anxious and feel the need to muster up love for Him? To know God is to love Him. Are we letting people or religious mentalities around us pressure us into doing? Is our zeal in order to please men or God? When someone blasts you for not doing something right or doing something enough, do you feel like it's the voice of God saying those things? Rest assured that it's not God. Our Father says in Isaiah 54 that whenever someone stirs up strife with us, it's not from Him. It's very easy to mistake the voices of disappointment and disapproval people may show towards us and take it as coming from God.
We are free sons and daughters. We are not servants anymore. So stop allowing people to pressure you into obedience and allow God's love to be your motivation. If someone is trying to manipulate you or guilt or shame you into something, I don't believe that is of God. God knows fear and guilt does not breed love. It breeds more fear and guilt. Stand up to those voices and tell them that you must not do anything to prove yourself to God or to get Him to like you or love you.
I know all of this is easier said than done and I done expect anyone of us to completely stop it overnight. But learn to discern things like this. Even Jesus didn't do things out of people pressuring Him. Even when it was a good work! He wasn't a slave to guilt or condemnation. He was a slave to the love of the Father.
And Jesus went away from there and withdrew to the district of Tyre and Sidon. And behold, a Canaanite woman from that region came out and was crying,"Have mercy on me, O Lord, Son of David; my daughter is severely oppressed by a demon." But he did not answer her a word. And his disciples came and begged him, saying,"Send her away, for she is crying out after us." He answered,